Individual Therapy
What has brought you here? Something’s not going right…
You can’t take it one more day.
Your partner does not understand the pain you feel. They say destructive things, and you shatter inside.
Pushing it down and out of sight isn’t working anymore.
How can I get help with this secret pain? You wonder, “Is it me? Is my partner abusive? Is this a “normal” relationship?
A therapist can help you identify the toxic dynamics in a relationship and help you initiate interventions to reach your partner and help you as a couple. Many people in troubled relationships need a brave member to come forward to start getting help.
This help for yourself will benefit your relationship because you will be able to work through confidence and shame issues that are pulling you down and away from your partner. Taking that first step is good for you – and everyone close to you.
You spend your life watching others.
Scrolling TikTok… Instagram… Pinterest. Others seem to be following their dreams and WINNING at life.
It feels like others are winning, and you are only watching.
And waiting…
Waiting for something to change.
Your best version of yourself, that dreamy, ideal self inside of you. That person is real. That hope is a fire inside you saying, “I deserve to be seen, heard, noticed, and loved… I am worth spending time with.”
For you to feel noticed and loved, you must put away your assumptions about other people’s lives. I can help you do that. You are comparing other people’s success to areas of your life that are weakest. It’s a form of bullying yourself. This will only make you feel disconnected and hopeless about your life. And the cycle will continue.
I can help you break through this negative cycle of self-sabotage. I can teach you how to rethink success. Part of our journey together will be unpacking negative messages from your past that try to convince you – you are not enough.
I call B.S.
You don’t need a career change, new home, or a new look to get love. The journey must start with changing your thinking patterns. Let’s do this work together and get you free from these old cycles.
No longer will this have the power to take over your life. No more!
Talking to someone who can explain the path ahead is a game-changer.
I’ve had to unpack many outdated messages that weren’t working for me.
I spoke to a therapist. It felt like unpacking heavy weights from my backpack. I began a journey to understand MYSELF – how to LIKE being ME.
I also identified how to stop bullying myself with my thoughts and negativity.
Self-actualization is… “the desire for self-fulfillment, namely the tendency for [the individual] to become actualized in what s/he is potentially… the desire to become more and more what one is, to become everything that one is capable of becoming.” – Abraham Maslow
Are you becoming?
Anniversaries bring some people joy, others pain. Special events can bring some people peace; others feel deep distress. What is the difference between people?
You have not learned how to become happy because you do not first have enough information about who you are meant to Become. Anniversaries often remind us of promises to ourselves we have not kept. Special events can suggest happiness is nearby, but not accessible to you.
Happiness and fulfillment can feel hopelessly out of reach.
“What is holding me back from making courageous changes?” you ask.
Is your inner critic bullying you into hiding?
You were not made to ruminate in fear of failure, spinning your past mistakes through your head.
You have an inner warrior inside of you who wants to be seen and heard. This warrior is your courage. Your tenacity. The part of you ready to battle for the innocent. We want that warrior to join us.
Truly living life means taking some risks.
How do we know where to begin?
Hayley* didn’t want to show her face during our first telehealth session. Decades of fear, shame, and avoidance about her appearance had her hiding from life and her therapist.
Hayley didn’t know if counseling would work for her – but she signed up to begin, and she showed up.
Fast forward 12 months and “Hayley in Charge” directs the agenda for our sessions, reports accurately and faithfully on her personal goals and setbacks, and is feeling more confident and alive than ever before.
Today, Hayley reports less anxiety about work and relationships, more recognition and leadership in her job, and recently applied to graduate school. She has life by the reins now. She sees herself Becoming, and she is happier.
Are you ready to learn more about yourself?
Dennis* is a patient care and research physician in a prestigious university hospital setting. Dennis was also living with debilitating anxiety and depression. He just wanted to treat the symptoms so that he could get back to his life. His number one fear was failing at work and being fired.
The symptoms didn’t go away. Dennis continued to attend regular therapy. During 18 months of treatment, Dennis learned how to manage his symptoms and ask for adjustments with work that created the most stress. Things got much better because Dennis learned to identify personal health needs and communicate what he needed to others.
Today, Dennis takes on fewer responsibilities and feels much more content at his current job. He currently has lucrative offers from two competing firms. Doors are opening for Dennis. Dennis is Becoming.
Do you want to be more effective with your goals in life?
You are trying. You want to make others happy around you. You want to be a “good person.” Just be good. Good enough.
You are starting to question “good enough” because the truth is… you have nothing left for yourself. Anytime you consider what you need, it seems like it’s going to cause problems for others. So, you disconnect, you escape, you dream of leaving the people, places, and things you love. At least, sometimes.
A crisis. The Greek meaning for the word crisis is “to sift.” “Let it all fall away, and you’ll be left with what matters.” – Glennon Doyle Melton
The problem with struggling alone or “always hustling” to keep up is that you were never meant to carry so much. Your pieces won’t fit in the puzzle.
A crisis can sometimes be the best thing in disguise. We fall apart for a little while to rebuild what matters and dump the excess.
Therapy means confidence to face life’s hurdles.
My clients seeking psychotherapy are ready to meet the challenges in their lives because they’re ready to take focused action toward their goals.
It took a nudge from my parents to get me into my first therapy session. They saw possibilities I could not yet see.
Today I live and breathe in the therapy space, and I want to share what I’ve learned about “being enough” with you. It’s warm, safe, and comfortable here.
I have a safe space lovingly set aside for you. You are welcome on your terms, just as you are.
Are you tired of wondering, “What if I could be happier?”
It’s time for your authentic self to show up and be seen.
You’ll love them. They’re awesome.
Call me, and we can do this together! Reach out today: (615) 905-1893.
*Names changed to preserve client confidentiality.